What's happening to kindness, love and virtue? What is happening to community?
I must admit, as a human I feel lost as a member of this species. More accurately I feel confused and frustrated both at once. What have we done to ourselves? Have we truly lost our way or is this our destiny? Is this our fate?
I look in any direction and I see a dog eat dog world. Everyone for themselves with small pockets of what we once were and had. The world hasn't grown dark, it's us who has.
I say hello to my neighbors and get ignorance returned. I give kindness and then I'm taken for granted. All of a sudden I'm a t fault for all that is wrong in anthers life all because of diversity. Kindness being replaced with ignorance, love replaced with lust and virtue replaced with neglect.
For so long, generations, we have been growing more ignorant with ourselves, in lust with ourselves and more negligent with ourselves. We have more and more books and seminars on self help and less and less on community, each other and connection. Yet, these are the very things, fundamental things we all want, need and are seeking for.
I watched a mother and her young daughter at dinner. She was so excited sitting there so upright, proper and proud. A display in manners and elegance of a true young lady. Not even moments and her mother separates herself and spends the remainder of the time locked on her phone. For an hour I watched this young lady of about seven or eight crushed smaller and smaller. The mother had nothing to say. She had nothing she wanted to give her daughter. Not even an hour and yet life is too short.
This same story I observe more and more just with different characters and settings. We've truly lost the value of time and each other and are quickly losing the value of living.
Perhaps this loss is due to the loss of stillness. We lost connection with each other because we've lost connection with ourselves. Faster and faster we achieve human domestication. Less of the natural world and more of the artificial acting as if we are something unnatural to this world. We move in such a hurry to go from one side of our box to the other. Too many people have forgotten the smell of wildflowers. They've lost the feeling of their hands being in the soil and the sweet and potent taste of a wild blackberry. Most people, cannot even recognize a blackberry without being in a grocery store or a flower without being at a nursery.
Perhaps as we lose our connection with nature, we lose connection with each other? In our domesticated lives everything you need is done for you by people you never see, meet or know about. So then kindness is no longer needed? No more need for yin and yang? No more need for your neighbor, which means, no more need for you as you are also a neighbor. Just as there was no need or desire for the mother to share with her daughter, who is her own nature.
As we remove our connection to nature we remove all our kindness, love, compassion, respect and the courage it takes to be someone's true friend. Happiness doesn't come from love and love doesn't come from things that make you feel happy. Love and happiness come from connection.
To rebuild connection we must look back to our foundation. Rebuild a connection with nature. Go for walks in the woods, amongst the wildflowers and feel the banks of rivers and lakes between your toes. Touch gently, whisper to and feel appreciation for life. Plant a small edible garden or at least nurture and care for a few small herbs in the house. Play music yourself. Skip the grocery store and go to the orchard.
Integrate nature into your life, rebuild the connection our ancestors once had and perhaps the world will begin to vibrate positively and won't seem so dark. It takes you, me and each other as we will always share each other's fate.
As once said by Alexander the Great, "Remember, upon the conduct of each depends the fate of all."